The "Have a Blessed Day" Challenge
My professor's objection was that it was too personal, too in-my-business. What if my grandmother just died? What if I'm incredibly depressed or just got diagnosed with cancer? Telling someone to have a nice day, in those circumstances, seems wildly inappropriate, and since the clerk at the counter has no idea what kind of circumstances I'm tolerating, inserting the have a nice day remark seems inappropriately presumptuous. All of it can be avoided if people just say Thank you.
Then there's the people who don't only presume that you should have a nice day, but that you are a believer in the favor-granting powers of God. They take it one step further by saying Have a Blessed Day.
Now, if the have-a-nice-day thing was mildly irritating to me, the have-a-blessed-day thing is like nails on the chalkboard because it is so damned presumptuous, unnecessary, and it inserts god-belief, one might even say proselytizing, into that two second interaction at the gas station. The clerk is making a declaration of god-belief (evangelical, personal-Jesus god-belief, no less), and she is presuming that I share in that personal god-belief, making a neutral transaction all-of-the-sudden political. It irritates me so much that I go out of my way to avoid the clerks who I know to be Blessed-Day wishers.
What I need is a good come-back.
I don't want to say screw you, or anything particularly rude, because, you know, evangelicals just take that as they've done something good. I need a comeback that makes it clear that such admonitions are not only unwelcome, but presumptuous and uncivil. I haven't come up with a good one yet. The best I have is one I tried out a few days ago. I said: I'd feel blessed if more people would mind their own business. It wasn't bad, but it wasn't great, either.
So, I'm issuing a challenge: What is your best Have-a-blessed-day comeback line?
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You are taking an act of simple kindness too far. When you sneeze and someone says, "Bless you," do you think they ALWAYS imply a relgious connotation? Did you know that every time you say "Goodby" you are using the modern version of "God be with you?" I don't have a good comeback line for you because I don't believe you need one. I think you need to lighten up. Oh, and FTR: I am NOT religious, either.
I complained recently about a store clerk who said "Have a blessed day." As for Anonymous' comment, I would say when it's someone representing a store, I don't want to hear a religious message. If it was an individual who said it, I would just say thank you. As for "Have a nice day," that didn't come along until the early 70s that I can remember. I know I didn't grow up with it, and the first I remember hearing it was in 1973 or so when I was a teacher and the teacher next to me would tell every kid in her class to "Have a nice day." That came to 150 times a day that I had to listen to something that I thought sounded pretty stupid hearing it even once.
I think people just need to deal. Nobody that you interact with is living their lives for your approval, so my advice would be to grow up and realize that the world does not revolve around you or your expectations of others. That being said, you want a comeback? How about, "I'm too much of an asshole to respect where you are coming from, and since you are obviously not a mind-reader, I want you to know that it is my intention to have a horrible day, because all the people of the world don't act or say the things I think they should."
YAY!
Exactly!
I like to challenge people about that particular salutation. I ask, "What do you mean? How do I do that?" And I'm never afraid to ask, "what if I don't believe in your god, can I still be blessed?" Get them thinking about what they're saying and maybe they'll start to reconsider the whole package deal of religious faith.
""what if I don't believe in your god, can I still be blessed?"
Given that three of the presumably Christian respondents to this post agreed that the author is an asshole (not that they took responsibility for their opinions, preferring to put the words into his mouth), I would guess not.
Author... Did it ever occur to you that the individual saying have a nice day, or have a blessed day may just be wishing you well? That is what's wrong with society today, there are to many people that are afraid to converse anymore for fear that it may offend someone. If you are really that much of an introvert that you take offense to someone telling you have a nice day, or have a blessed day, you may wish to remove yourself from society in general.
As far as a response challenge goes, how about challenging yourself to actually practice civility and say "you too"..
You have no idea what the person wishing you well may be going through either, and as its a jesture of kindness, you may just want to be reciprical because it may be the difference between that person loosing hope, or being given a enough hope to pull through their day.
Personally I have a best friend that is athiest, and I am Christian, I don't try to convert him because I respect him to much. He tells me have a blessed day, I tell him have a good day. Its a matter of respect, and kindness.. Nothing more, nothing less.
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The names Brian although I prefer Kayla. Yes that’s right I’m transgender but what most people are amazed to hear is I’m also a Christian. And I use “Have a Blessed Day” All the time.
And if someone said "What do you mean? How do I do that?" or "what if I don't believe in your god, can I still be blessed?" I simply smile and say “Of Corse you can, because God loves everyone no matter who they are or what they believe” . And leave it at that. ;)
"And you have a scientific day too"
I face the same problem in Va as well. While some people have complained that you're complaining, I completely identify with your irritation. The truth is that I don't insert my skepticism of religion in my daily interactions with strangers and I would appreciate their paying me the same kindness. Living in the Bible Belt can be really trying and there comes a point, particularly on a bad day, when someone's telling me to "Have a Blessed Day" is the tipping point. I wish more people had responded with serious answers, as this is a great topic. I don't have a good response, but really need one around here.
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